My Ideal Person:
An abundance of warmth, tenderness, repartee, amusement, bemusement, giggling, ardor, challenges and mutual support. And, of course, the zowie factor. Once we've moved through these stages, we start again at the beginning.

When you find me, your heart sings "Ah, Sweet Mystery of Life" -- or maybe a little James Brown.

You are brilliant, witty, earnest, creative, warm and affectionate, with an interest in cultural pursuits. You're industrious about your work or studies. You like to read.

It's a plus if you have some success as a writer or journalist or chef, but it's also great if you are a professional who can refinish a piece of furniture, play the harmonica, cook, etc. I can probably learn something about music or writing or wine just by hanging around you.

You are perceptive, articulate and discerning, but not overly negative or narrow in your tastes. You have favorite haunts (high and low), but you like to explore and you're always finding new ones. You enjoy sharing dessert and appreciate a few creature comforts and you're not ashamed of it.

You are non-religious and politically on the liberal side.

You look adorable rumpled, but you own at least one suit and tie (preferably, not a clip-on from the Jerry Garcia collection).

You're endearing. You're huggable.

While it's ok to stay cozy at home sometimes and it's ok for you to be in a bad mood once in a while, you should not be the type who sighes a lot and drapes yourself about your apartment like a forlorn lost sock.

It's really ok if you have some flaws to balance out even just a FEW of mine.

You're kind of a wiseass.

That's Hot:
I'm kind of partial to banter, strong stands, receding hairlines, glasses, kinda-cool dorks.

I'm looking for someone who makes me really want to get to know him. That means someone kind, passionate, who keeps my brain stimulated and entertained. I don't need to date just to fill the chair across from me at dinner.